everything in life is a trap, pour one out for him #RIP
I hate this because this is actually another example of women’s and lesbians’ oppression. Many lesbian parents who get into a bad financial situation (no matter how temporary) are forced to contact their donor for support even if they don’t want to or there was a contract because the government makes them do that before they are approved for any kind of government assistance for your child. Maybe if they gave both moms parental rights things like this wouldn’t happen. Blame the government not the parents.
Also it wouldn’t surprise me if they paid him to be a donor and he did it without knowing what he was doing in order to reap his own benefits. Do not feel sorry for him one bit.
So basically this dude is being forced to pay large sums of money for a kid that he has no parental rights to and you’re making this about women. Really.
Why do you have to make other peoples’ problems all about women? Why do you feel the need to constantly reframe everything so you look like the victim in every possible situation?
It’s actually pretty disgusting that you’re using this poor guy’s plight as a platform for how oppressed women are, because of course EVERYTHING is misogyny if you squint at it.
Sperm donors usually have no parental rights to their children and are usually just there to provide the ingredients. Unless these women are willing to give him full parental rights, he shouldn’t have to owe them a dime.
I feel like everyone should have the full facts here.
He responded to an ad on craigslist for a sperm doner for a lesbian couple and did not use a licensed physician for the insemination (I like to pretend a turkey baster was involved somehow but those details weren’t shared.)
When the baby was born they were asked who the father was and they gave the full explanation to the doctors, showing them the parental rights waiver thing that he signed.
Their local government decided that he had to pay child support because the waiver he signed did not make him an official sperm doner and thus was not protected by sperm doner laws because they did not use a licensed physician.
The women are also fighting the decision because obviously this is some god damn bullshit.
The state of Kansas is the one insisting that he pay for child support, not the (former) couple.
Fucking read some shit before making assumptions god dammit.
I find it a little “oppressing” to think that when my Fiance and I have a baby of our own, someone out there thinks I would need our sperm donor to help us financially. Because “Well they’re two women, so of course they need a man out there making money!” No, just no.
This isn’t girl has baby and then becomes a lesbian so he doesn’t want to pay child support because she’s now with a chick. This is “everyone agreed he’s just a “sperm donor” so don’t garnish his wages” xD Yikes.